FREE ESSAY ON SECRETS MEN DON'T NEED TO KNOW

SECRETS MEN DON'T NEED TO KNOW

Secrets men don't need to know
Contrary to popular belief intimacy and honesty doesn't mean you should tell all to your
partner or potential partner. Sharing too much information can be destructive to a
relationship. You might feel better if you spill your guts, but your partner most times
ends up feeling much worse.
Let's take a look at sexual secrets. Tell only on a need to know basis. You needn't tell
your lover how many other partners you have had before he came along, and certainly don't
give any details of past experiences. It won't help your relationship and if something
happened that has profoundly affected you and/or will continue to have an impact on your
life, you should tell your partner. He doesn't have to know that you have dated someone
once or twice, but he should be told of a long term or otherwise serious relationship,
especially if you were married or engaged before. Withholding information can hurt a
relationship if there are serious or ongoing issues between you and your partner. 
Money is always a touchy subject for couples. Couples should talk with one another about
money issues; there should be no secrets when it comes to finances within a serious
relationship. 
When it comes to family secrets, you may want to tell all in a new relationship, but,
don't tell how uncle Lou dresses up like Cinderella at the family New Years party after 2
drinks, and sings there's no place like home. The relationship between you and your
partner might not last, and how would you like everyone in your Sociology class to know
that about dear old Uncle Lou? Keep it to yourself until they are officially in the
family. I know you want no secrets between you two from the start, but think first before
you turn out your family. Only tell secrets that are pertinent to the situation at hand.

Let's move on to personal secrets. If there are any secrets, he should hear them from
you. You must use your own best judgement as to how much and how far back you should go
when spilling those little secrets. Don't tell him secrets just to get them off your
chest, which is not fair to him or yourself. If the secret is a life or death piece of
information, he or she certainly has a right to know. If the secret is going to come out
eventually, your partner should hear it from you. Revealing secrets can make the two of
you closer, but do so slowly and with caution. Trust is something a couple builds over
time. 
Source
u Woman's own magazine