FREE ESSAY ON STRESS

STRESS

stress 
Psychological stress is a result of many factors and should be dealt with very carefully.
Stress can be defined as a set of interactions between the person and the environment
that result in an unpleasant emotional state, such as anxiety, tension, guilt, or shame
(swin pg 1). Another way of putting it, is that there are somethings that put certain
demands on us. The effects of stress should not be limited to unpleasant emotional
states. Many studies have concluded that the effects on our physical health from stress
can be extremely detrimental. These adverse physical effects include heart disease and
formations of cancer. There are also some societal issues that psychological stress can
hamper. 
There are numerous elements that trigger the effects of psychological stress. Frustration
is one of these elements that will trigger stress. Frustration is one of the most
prevalent sources of stress in my life at this moment. A lot of different events will
cause frustration. Frustration occurs from something blocking our attainment of certain
goals or needs (Corey 207). All of the little things that frustrate us include waiting in
lines or traffic, sense of failure or inadequacies, bad relationships, deaths, and
loneliness. Self-defeating thoughts are a way in which we almost deliberately block
attainment of our needs. If in our heads, we have this preconceived notion that we are
incapable of obtaining something that we want or that others could not possibly love us,
we create a self-fulfilling prophecy. I used the word deliberately in describing
self-doubt because we have the ability to change these misinformed thoughts. 
Major life changes whether it be positive or negative can lead to very stressful
situations. In our society, many people fall into a rut of everyday life and fear change
to their daily routines. When any kind of change occurs it is very traumatic. There are
many changes in ones career that can cause stress. Starting a new career or getting a new
job is a major change that will produce stress. The feeling of being accepted in the
organization and learning the companies ways of doing things are stressful. Other changes
in one's life resulting in stress include a change in a personal relationship or
financial changes. You might think that hitting the lottery and being a multi-millionaire
would relieve any possible stress in one's life. That fact is that it is a major change
and you are going to have many different issues that you never had before. There are
issues of what to do with the money and how to invest it.
Pressures that are brought about in our society are imposed by ourselves and by others.
If one has too high of expectations for oneself it is inevitable that they will burn
themselves out. These expectations are derived out of our gender roles as men. Men are
thought of in our society to be the provider of money and security to their families. It
is one way we measure or manlyhood. Unrealistic pressures such as this, and pressures
from school, work and social life will lead to high levels of stress.
Conflict happens when two or more incompatible motivations or behavioral impulses compete
for expression. There are three classifications of conflict; approach/approach,
avoidance/avoidance, approach/avoidance. Approach/approach conflicts occur when we have
two attractive options from which we have to chose. This can happen when we have two
group of friends going out for New Year's Eve, both with exciting plans. It is tough to
decide which group of friends you want to hang out with. Avoidance/avoidance is the
opposite of approach/approach. When you have to decide between two unattractive choices
or goals, stress sets in. This has occurred to me this past month or so in deciding what
I am going to take for my accounting elective. All of my options are very unappealing.
Decisions may arise where both objects that you are to chose from have both attractive
and unattractive components. This type of conflict can be categorized as
approach/avoidance conflict. An example of this type could be in finding a house. If you
have found the house of your dreams for an amazingly low price but it is very far away
from your place of employment, you have approach/avoidance conflict (Corey pg. 207-208).
Other sources of stress include ambiguity in a certain situation. If you are unsure of
what to do or how to act in a situation it can cause stress. If you get into a fight with
someone it can cause stress. Contradictions to your value systems can produce some
unwanted stress.
I have never before in my life been under so much stress that it has caused serious
questions of hopelessness. Throughout my entire life, I have been very good with coping
with stressful situations, but something happened on October 12 that will change my life
forever. A couple of policeman came to my door with a complaint. Apparently, a friend of
mine and I had been accused of a crime that we did not commit. The threat that we could
possibly get expelled from school or even worse get put in jail for a very long time
comes with a very high level of stress. The investigation has been going on ever since
they first came to our door. They have decided to postpone the investigation over the
winter break which has caused a great deal of anxiety and ambiguity for me. If I had
committed this crime than I would have no problem facing the consequences. The fact is,
that I did not commit the crime and this has left me very angry and upset. This situation
has caused a lot of pain and money for my parents that I caused. Having to tell them and
seeing how upset they are have left me extremely stressful and full of unnecessary
anxieties.
About a month or so after this incident in October, I received a call from a friend of
mine. He had just found out that my roommate from sophomore year and very good friend was
found in his grandmothers barn dead. Two days later, a friend of the family lost his
battle to lung cancer. Some other frustrations that I am having include school. I have
only five options left for classes next semester. I am having trouble getting in to some
of the classes that I want. I have yet to start looking for a job for many reasons. I
feel pressure from my parents and peers to start the process of finding a job. Many of my
friends have already received offers and I have yet to begun writing my resume. Those are
just some of the major issues, but there are many other everyday demands in my life that
cause unwanted stress.
The effects of these stresses have left me emotionally bewildered. I am chronically
depressed and a short time after the incident I had a panic attack. My heart started
racing frantically and I could not stop shaking. My best friend was on the couch across
from me watching a movie. I was so afraid of what was happening that I couldn't speak. I
have been emotionally scarred for life. 
This incident has left me with serious issues of trusting others. This lack 
of trust has hurt my ability to form interpersonal relationships. When we go out into
Boston I have a lot trouble talking to other people. Normally, I am the one out of my
friends that like to go out and meet new and interesting people. Ever since that
incident, I have not been able to figure out what is wrong with my social skills. I have
become very shy around people that I do and don't know. I have lost contact with a lot of
my friends because of this.
It has also been found that prolonged stress can cause many disorders from minor to life
threatening. Some of the minor reactions from the body to stress are headaches, asthma,
digestive disorders and sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation was a major problem for me
right after this all occur but it is no longer a problem. One of the effects it has had
on me is weight loss. Before the incident I was eating very healthy foods and lifting
weights at the gym. I have lost almost fifteen pounds and have trouble eating well. 
Doctor Abbot in I Never Knew I Had a Choice states that about 75 percent of ailments that
he treats are related to stress (Corey pg. 209). It has been found that stress activates
the body's hormone system. This in turn has an effect on our immune system's capabilities
to fight of infectious diseases including cancer. There have been cases were people who
have experienced the loss of a loved one shortly after develop cancer (cancernet). Stress
and its impact on breast cancer has received a lot of attention as of late. Studies have
shown that an alarming number of women with breast cancer had experienced some sort of
traumatic life experience or loss several years before their diagnosis (cancernet). 
It is no coincidence that heart disease is one of the highest causes of death among
Americans. We live in the most stressful and demanding country in the world. We are
constantly in fierce competition with others. Stress manifests physiological changes in
the body. The evidence that stress causes coronary disease has yet to be conclusive but
most professionals believe there is a direct correlation. There are many different
hypothesis including Blascovich and Katkin. The examine many studies to the effects of
stress on the heart in their book, Cardiovascular Reactivity to Psychological Stress and
Disease (www.apa.com).
The best way to cope with the many stresses that we have throughout a day is to have
different attitudes towards life. I must slow down and question many of the beliefs that
this country has instilled in us. Many people believe that work and money are the most
important things to obtain through life. People have got understand the importance of
leisure time and rest. Developing a sense of humor goes a long way in dealing with
stress. Proper time management is something that I, in particular, must employ to remain
less stressful. I must also continue my old eating habits. Food can give us the energy
needed to deal with stress. Exercise is a very important part of reducing stress. There
is actual physical evidence that exercise helps people recover from stress. According to
Professor Kubitz of Kansas State University, stress releases hormones that cause the
heart to beat faster. If we exercise, our heart will become stronger and will be better
able to deal with stress (geocities). 
Works Cited
I Never Knew I Had a Choice, 6th ed. Gerald and Marianne Corey. Brooks/Cole 
Publishing 1997.
www.apa.org
www.cancernet.com
www.geocities.com 
www.swin.edu